I recently saw a facebook relationship status that said “Relationship It’s Complicated.” I was a little shocked that facebook would be so astoot as to provide such a choice. I for one think that if a relationship is worthwhile, it will be complicated. Complicated is usually a good thing I’ve found. It means that two people are bringing different experiences, knowledge, wisdom, and perspectives to the table. It means we are forced in many ways to accept people on their own terms whether we agree with them or not and if it necessary for them to change, we leave it to God and love the person anyway. It means that we have to enter the relationship with the attitude of giving not the attitude of getting. And it means we have to know and remember that no relationship will ever be 50/50 and that you should remember that, when you’re feeling like you’re giving more than the other person, there was surely a time when they were the ones giving 80 and you were giving 20.
I am so thankful to be making friends and to have friends who are in different walks of life, who come to our complicated relationship with different perspectives and experiences, and who love and care about me despite myself. I would personally find myself difficult to deal with in a relationship, which makes me even more appreciative that people even bother to deal with me 🙂 I know that all of my relationships are complicated. They force me to think, to pray, to grow, to love, to learn, to be less controlling and less anal, and I think all of those are good things. They help me to be a better me.
Here’s some pictures of some complicated and maybe some not as complicated relationships. You can decide which is which.